Motherhood is a series of milestones, meltdowns and memories!
By guest blogger: Kristi Paxton
“Mother’s Day” or Motherhood in general looks different to me in 2019 because of social media and the tendencies to make things look perfect. It’s not all flowers, perfect smiles and joyful times, but it is an honor, a privilege and a kind of fulfillment you can’t experience, buy or create on your own.
My experience with motherhood was definitely not ideal or perfect. I would call my experience somewhat unique, but not at all regretful. I would call my experience one of great LOVE. I became a single parent when my children were 6, 8 and 12. Their father, my husband, died in a car wreck one fateful night after we returned home from our first trip to Disney World.
Our world as we knew it flipped upside down. The father in the family picture was gone, but there was still a mother, a mother who had to rise up and be a mother and a father. It was hard and was never picture perfect. The hardest thing for me was to not have someone to share in the true JOY of parenting. It was and still is sad to experience the milestones and - yes - the meltdowns and now the memories alone... But, WE MADE IT and YOU can too by the grace of God!!!
My children are all grown up now, graduated from college and have real jobs. My daughter, Lane, (the oldest of the three) is a dentist who married her high school sweetheart, Bo, and has two beautiful little girls, Kate and Anna.
Here are some of Lane’s thoughts as a young mother (really experiencing the meltdown & milestone phase with two little ones) on Motherhood: “Motherhood is a rollercoaster of emotions and once you are on it there is no way off! One minute you are locking the bathroom door thinking about your pre-kid life of naps and TV shows and the next minute you are saying you can’t live without these adorable little beings. They drive you crazy and then you kiss their cheeks off!!! There are times that you are scared to death you have failed at parenting and then times they say or do something so wonderful or kind you are filled with pride. Motherhood is the best thing and the hardest thing, the most fun and the most exhausting, but we would all choose it over and over again! It is a blessing that requires a lot of grace and a blessing filled with stories” ~ Lane Baxter.
Drew, (my son in the middle) works in the medical device field with pacemakers and defibrillators and speaking of milestones, just got engaged to a beautiful girl named Chelsea. Chelsea will be experiencing Mother’s Day this year with a heavy heart, but it will be one filled with precious memories of her Mom. She lost her mother this past year to Kidney cancer and remembers her like this…
“I lost my mom to Kidney Cancer last May just weeks after celebrating her on Mother’s Day, so this year will be a different kind of celebration - a Mother’s Day remembering her life as a Mom, wife, daughter, sister, aunt, friend and even a “doggie grandma”. She was the stunning definition of a mother and a woman. She lived her life with love, strength, balance, happiness, acceptance and forgiveness. All the things I work towards, she lived out in her everyday life. Her favorite quote was, “No perfect people allowed!”. It wasn’t that perfection was a negative thing, she just believed it was ok to have cracks! In a recent yoga class I went to, a teacher quoted a statement that reminded me of my mom and reflected the strength in the lessons she taught me… “There is a crack, a crack in everything, that is how the light gets in”. This light is love, strength, balance, happiness, acceptance and forgiveness - all the things that remind me to be the woman my mother was. I do miss her dearly and there isn’t a day that goes by without her going through my mind, however, I am grateful for the woman she helped me become. She was my Mom… The woman with a bright light that shined through the cracks!" ~ Chelsea Forsman.
Kristi and Chelsea wear 7/8 legging Barcelona
Last but not least, my youngest son Tucker is an amazing Graphic Design Artist in San Diego, California, living his BEST life!
LIVE “YOUR” BEST LIFE… And HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY 2019 to all the unique, perfectly imperfect mothers out there!!! May your day be filled with beautiful memories, crazy meltdowns and milestones commemorating your phase of life.
With great LOVE, Kristi Paxton.
About the Author:
Kristi Paxton is a 500 hour certified Vinyasa Flow Yoga Instructor, Stand Up Paddle Board Yoga Instructor as well as a Master Trainer for FiTMAT by Boga. She lives in Seacrest Beach, Florida. Follow her on Instagram.
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