Sattvic and Sexy Advice Column 3 - by Rina Jakubowicz
Queen Rina Answers Your Questions Regarding How to Be Sattvic and Sexy!
For women longing to embrace and enhance their intimate connections with themselves and their partner(s), “Sattvic and Sexy” is a revolutionary relationship system that radically reframes sexuality as spirituality.
This is the third advice column providing answers to Queens’ questions.
Queen D asks:
How do you balance honoring your own sexiness and womanly form with what you wear while also honoring your husband and knowing your body is special between the two of you?
Dearest Queen D,
Remembering your specific roles is important for assessing what’s appropriate in certain settings. What a woman wears can enhance what she feels within but if an outfit only makes a woman feel sexy then she is approaching it from an entirely physical aspect. That feeling won’t last and isn’t based on truth. It’s based on form and physique which is fleeting.
A man is usually more visual thus giving him something nice to look at is vital for keeping things spicy and exciting. How you act with your sexy womanly body is much more important than what you’re wearing. You wear what you wear for you first, then for your partner. But never for attracting others. You may attract them naturally but that’s never your intention. Remind your man that he’s your king always and there’s no one else. That should turn him on if done seductively and sweetly. You have to find that fine line. You could even communicate with your partner that you’re trying to find this fine line so that he knows you’re respecting him while addressing your needs to.
If you have the kind of partner who doesn’t want you to wear sexy clothing nor feel beautiful in front of others then that’s an insecurity problem of his. It’s something he has to work on himself and it’s not on you to give into that or else you’ll feel trapped in your relationship. Be respectful of your partner at the same time that you honor your needs to express your own comfort in your skin; especially if you’re working on finding that comfort. It’s a fine line but remember that the sexiest trait is self-confidence and independence. You got this Queen D! :)
Queen A asks: Growing up my mom didn’t teach me about cleaning my lady parts. Is that a sexual thing?
Dearest Queen A,
Cleaning your lady parts is not a sexual thing. It’s about hygiene. The problem is that because society relates vaginas with sexuality, basic hygiene isn’t usually taught from mothers to daughters. This is due to shame and lack of knowledge. Luckily now you can learn how to clean your “lady parts” on your own and how it works best for you. Take your time learning and explore the truth for yourself.
Queen J asks: What do you say to your partner if he asks for a blow job, but you don't like doing it?
Dearest Queen J:
You may not want to hear this but if you chose to have a partner and have a sexual relationship with him, then it’s your duty to serve him and please him, just like it’s his duty to serve and please you. Reflect on why you don’t like giving a blow job because if it gives your partner so much pleasure, ideally it will give you pleasure as well. Remember, for a Sattvic Woman, giving a blow job is not something physical, but an act of service. If you focus on the action, it’s not pleasurable for you, but if you focus on the pleasure you’re giving, it’s also pleasing for you. Your partner will likely want to return it in kind. Ask for it, if he doesn’t offer it! :) Allow to be served, as well.
Thank you for your bravery Queens in asking these questions.
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- Email Rina with questions at AskRina@SattvicandSexy.com
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